Sometimes Love Hurts
There are some times when you need to sacrifice yourself for others. Yes, it happens. It is not the easiest thing to do but at the end, it might the best thing one can do.
When you love someone, you want to take care of him/her, make him/her smile and happy. You want to fulfill all his or her desires and you want to make sure he or she does not suffer. However, although it all has good intentions, each of us needs to learn to feel, to handle stress, to grow up, to set him/her free.
Being in a relationship is not as easy as it looks like. It does not matter what type of relationship is. The reality is that each person needs to learn about the other. It is a process where both need to learn to communicate, to respect each other, to have boundaries, to accept each other with all the little idiosyncrasies, and the most important, to be honest.
Sometimes things come in the way. By that I mean that we all have a history; some people call it “baggage”. Yes, baggage does not discriminate between nationality, economic status in life, education, family history and age. No one person can say: “I have no problems”, and if a person thinks he or she does not have a problem that is a problem.
That baggage can either bring people together, or sometimes destroy a relationship. When you love someone you want to help; you want to alleviate the pain that the past created to the loved one. However, you need to be aware that some things are beyond your control. The only thing you can control is you; how you care for others, and the choices you make. Although there is a rescuer in all of us, you need to stop and think about the implications of helping. Ask yourself: is this really what this person needs? Is he/she asking for help? If I help, how is this going to affect the relationship? Do I need to step out and leave him/her alone?
Think about this: if you do it for him/her, you are possibly enabling bad behaviors. That means you are not really helping someone to grow up, to evolve, to respect you. Sometimes is better to upset some one by refusing to help or by leaving. Yes, it is very difficult to handle the pain of stepping out or leaving someone you deeply love. But you know, sometimes is the only thing you can do.
If that person really loved you and cared for you, hopefully one day he or she will realize that at that time, you did not have any other options. Hopefully one day he or she will come back to you with a greater appreciation that YOU sacrificed yourself to save him/her.
When you love someone, you want to take care of him/her, make him/her smile and happy. You want to fulfill all his or her desires and you want to make sure he or she does not suffer. However, although it all has good intentions, each of us needs to learn to feel, to handle stress, to grow up, to set him/her free.
Being in a relationship is not as easy as it looks like. It does not matter what type of relationship is. The reality is that each person needs to learn about the other. It is a process where both need to learn to communicate, to respect each other, to have boundaries, to accept each other with all the little idiosyncrasies, and the most important, to be honest.
Sometimes things come in the way. By that I mean that we all have a history; some people call it “baggage”. Yes, baggage does not discriminate between nationality, economic status in life, education, family history and age. No one person can say: “I have no problems”, and if a person thinks he or she does not have a problem that is a problem.
That baggage can either bring people together, or sometimes destroy a relationship. When you love someone you want to help; you want to alleviate the pain that the past created to the loved one. However, you need to be aware that some things are beyond your control. The only thing you can control is you; how you care for others, and the choices you make. Although there is a rescuer in all of us, you need to stop and think about the implications of helping. Ask yourself: is this really what this person needs? Is he/she asking for help? If I help, how is this going to affect the relationship? Do I need to step out and leave him/her alone?
Think about this: if you do it for him/her, you are possibly enabling bad behaviors. That means you are not really helping someone to grow up, to evolve, to respect you. Sometimes is better to upset some one by refusing to help or by leaving. Yes, it is very difficult to handle the pain of stepping out or leaving someone you deeply love. But you know, sometimes is the only thing you can do.
If that person really loved you and cared for you, hopefully one day he or she will realize that at that time, you did not have any other options. Hopefully one day he or she will come back to you with a greater appreciation that YOU sacrificed yourself to save him/her.
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